Ouch! Seven Tools for Dealing with the Pain Following an Affair
The pain caused by a partner’s unfaithfulness is probably one of the worst kinds of pain possible to experience…certainly it is one of...
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Will I ever be happy again?
If your spouse has had an affair, this is likely one of the many questions you have asked yourself. And it is no wonder. Betrayal by a spouse or significant other is one of the most painful things a person will ever have to face. Although it is a highly personal experience, it is also something that is best faced with the support of others who are caring, compassionate and understanding, but because it is so personal, finding those safe individuals can be difficult.
Support
The Living Beyond Betrayal Online Group is a support and educational group for individuals who are in varying stages of dealing with the pain of being betrayed by a spouse or significant other. There is an 8-week package that includes weekly live Zoom sessions, videos, discovery pages, and membership in a secret Facebook page. The 8-week package is is followed by an optional, month-to-month membership, which includes the weekly live Zoom sessions and continued membership in the secret Facebook page.
Living Beyond Betrayal Online was created and is led by Martha L Van Dam, a State Licensed and Nationally Certified Counselor who is trained in trauma and infidelity recovery. You will also have the opportunity to meet and connect with others like you who just want to feel normal again and to stop living on an emotional roller coaster.
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To betray
To be false or disloyal to, to lead astray, to deceive.
Breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict.
To be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining or fulfilling; to disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to, to deceive, misguide or corrupt; to seduce and desert.
To lead astray, deceive.
How to Deal with Pain
If we HAVE to go through it to heal, how do we deal with it?
Download these seven suggestions for ways to cope with the waves of pain when they threaten to knock you to your knees and set the stage for being better prepared when those waves do come.
Program Details
8 weekly, 1.5 hr, live group sessions, where your individual questions will be answered by Martha. You will get to talk to her through Zoom technology while connecting with the other ladies in the chat portion. This live, group session is where you will get to interact in real time.
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8 weekly emails containing the week’s video lesson, discovery workbook pages, reading and resource suggestions, homework assignments, targeted meditation videos, and the Zoom link for that week’s live group session. Working through the materials in these emails provide structure and will help you heal, make sense of what you are going through and find direction.
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Membership (optional) in a secret Facebook group where you can connect as little or as much as you like with others in the group.
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The option to continue participating in the live group sessions and the Facebook group at the end of the 8 weeks for a nominal fee.
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For the initial launch, the first 35 to sign up will receive a half-priced, Founding Member’s cost of $450. Beyond the 8 weeks, continued monthly membership for founding members will be at the reduced cost of $25/month for as long as you remain a member. This will allow you to remain in the Facebook group and to continue to participate in the live-group, Zoom sessions.
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Boundaries and how they are the secret to your power
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2
Dealing with the overwhelming triggers and emotions to find healing and hope
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3
Asking for disclosure and weighing the risks of staying or leaving your relationship as you make your decision
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The "F" word: Forgiveness. What it is and what it isn't. (Hint: It's not forgetting and it's not trusting.)
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How to rebuild trust and when it is safe to do so
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The components necessary for growing emotional intimacy
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Physical intimacy and Sexuality
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Putting it all together and moving forward - feeling secure in your direction and your plan
Testimonials from Previous Attendees
“Thank you. You have moved mountains for me.”
In this group, you will:
Meet others who are also healing.
Receive help from a caring professional who is experienced in sensitively dealing with those who have been exactly where you are and in helping hurting people find relief.
Learn from their experiences and receive comfort and strength from others who “get it.”
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Availability is limited. Next session TBD.
Tuesday evenings at 6:00 – 7:30 ET
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